“It was a pretty lousy episode this week. Nobody died.”
Remember when I said that I met a Jake Ryan-esque dreamboat on OKCupid? Remember how I said that we talked for several hours and that one conversation single-handedly restored my faith in humanity? Well, several hours has turned to several weeks. Last weekend, I was passing through his town on my way to somewhere else, and we agreed to meet for coffee.
I texted him at 6:25 PM: “Hey, I’m in your town. At a McDonald’s on 4th. Point me in the right direction!”
6:30, no text. 6:45, no text. At 7:00, I give it up and start the long drive home. I grow old and die alone, with only the Valentine’s candy I bought for myself to hold me at the end.
I texted him at 6:25 PM: “Hey, I’m in your town. At a McDonald’s on 4th. Point me in the right direction!”
He takes a few minutes to respond. These minutes are tense; is he going to stand me up? The bitch better not stand me up. Finally I get a response. “I’m sorry, I got caught up on something. Listen, can we meet another time? I’m just super busy avoiding you because you kind of freak me out. No offense. Drive safe!” Alternating between sobbing and cursing, I order a giant thing of ice cream from the McDonalds drive through and allow it to melt on the drive home while listening to Judy’s “By Myself” on repeat and singing very loudly and very off-key.
I texted him at 6:25 PM: “Hey, I’m in your town. At a McDonald’s on 4th. Point me in the right direction!”
He takes a few minutes to respond. But he does, at 6:32. We work out where I am to discover I’ve missed the Starbucks target by about 5 miles. That’s ok, he responds, just stay where you are. He has moved the meeting from Starbucks to McDonalds, which has effectively moved this from “coffee thing” to “let’s just get this shit over with,” which is the official slogan of McDonalds. He pulls into the parking lot at 7:05 PM, and walks towards me, tall, gorgeous, stylish. I walk towards him. We get under the street lamp, and he stops, aghast. “My God, man! You’re hideous!” He stumbles back into the darkness, and the lights of his blue Chevy Equinox illuminate and are out of the parking lot before you could say, “I just want somebody to love me.” The people inside the McDonalds grab their pitchforks and torches and angry-villager me into the night, never to be heard from again.
I texted him at 6:25 PM: “Hey, I’m in your town. At a McDonald’s on 4th. Point me in the right direction!”
At 7:05, he pulls into the McDonald’s parking lot.
There is some awkward handshaking. We stumble inside to find it relatively devoid of loud high school kids or angry white ladies clearly taking a dinner break from making meth in their storage shed, which is rare for a McDonald’s. The very unenthusiastic salesperson behind the counter offers an encouraging, “wut.” He offers to pay. I provide the socially appropriate amount of resistance before ordering a double Big Mac and large fry, extra salt. It costs $12.98. “You’re going to kill yourself, man,” he says, “You’re disgusting. And fat. See you never.” He storms out, and I’m left with nothing but 5000 calories and the unenthusiastic salesperson getting very frustrated that I won’t tell her whether I want cheese or not. “Yes,” I say. “Give me all the cheese you have.”
At 7:05, he pulls into the McDonald’s parking lot.
Awkward handshaking and stumbling words turn into polite conversations about work and the weather. Red Pants offers to pay the unenthusiastic salesperson, and after the socially appropriate amount of resistance I order a large sweet tea. He follows suit but adds a soft-serve ice cream cone, claiming he is “addicted to them.” We choose a booth as far as possible from the two men who have clearly either just been rustling cattle or have seen High Noon one too many times. The conversation stays on the weather and work. For an hour and a half, we sit around and name our favorite kinds of weather. “I really like the cold,” I say, “I could live in someplace like Lansing, Michigan.” “I like the hot,” he disagrees. “I’m moving to The People’s Republic of Congo eventually, I love the weather there so much.” After a painful hour and a half, there’s some polite “Well, this was fun” and a half-hearted “yeeeeeaaaahhh..” and we part ways never to see or hear from each other again. I die a few years later, cold and alone, surrounded by my porcelain doll collection and a wall mural of Michael Fassbender made entirely out of smaller pictures of Michael Fassbender.
At 7:05, he pulls into the McDonald’s parking lot.
We order, choose a booth, and spend most of the first 3 minutes assuming we have stepped on the other person’s feet. We are eventually able to assume normal conversation. The conversation moves smoothly from TV (which he has great taste in) to working out (which he is also “addicted to” and which I consider a phrase to mean “all of my coworkers know I’m gay”) to religion (which we share similar views on) to coming out (a process in which we are both in similar places).
We talk for an hour and 45 minutes. It is 8:47.
He says he has to go meet a friend. I ask, not so subtly, if he wants to do this again sometime. “Umm… I don’t think so. Have a nice life. Hey, could you throw this napkin away for me?” He walks out. 20 years later, when the neighbors start to smell something strange, they’ll call the police, who will bust in my apartment to find a raccoon feeding on my corpse desperately clutching a 20 year old McDonalds napkin in my left hand.
We talk for an hour and 45 minutes. It is 8:47.
We’re getting up to leave, when I stroll up to him, grab his shirt collar, and say, “Listen up, boy. I see something I want, I take it. And I am done window shopping.” Unable to resist my raw sexual energy and perfectly groomed facial hair, he rips his t-shirt off right there in the middle of the McDonalds and shoves me into the backseat of his car, where even the Good Lord above has to avert his eyes. Within a week we are married, have 2 Himalayan whistle kids named J.Crew and Bookcase, and are making out on top of a moving van, Fear Factor style. We live happily and muscly and environmentally friendly ever after.
I texted him at 6:25 PM: “Hey, I’m in your town. At a McDonald’s on 4th. Point me in the right direction!”
For the next 7 minutes, those scenarios and others are racing through my head. There was even one where he set the McDonalds on fire to avoid spending one more second with me. None of them came true. I wasn’t fending off angry villagers with ogre-like growls, nor devouring an entire truckload of processed cheese slices, nor making out on top of a moving van (however that works).
No, I freaked out for no reason.
Because the 3 things you want to happen in this kind of scenario happened.
- Smooth conversation with a combined total of about 3 minutes of awkward silences.
- A firm hug at the end of the night.
- A tentative plan to do it again soon, “barring any major natural disasters,” which is a thing he said.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to spend the next few weeks alternating between planning our wedding and planning my Legally-Blonde style rom-com revenge plot when he dumps me.